This morning on my drive to yoga, I turned on KIIS FM to hear Ryan Seacrest's morning show. I usually listen to NPR in the early mornings when I'm heading to an o'dark-thirty workout because it feels more zen and lets my brain ease into starting the day, but since it was a bit later in the morning, Ryan it was. And mind you, by later in the morning, I mean almost 8am; the younger me is chuckling somewhere that I now consider 8am late.
Turns out I tuned in just in time to hear what it sounds like when a relationship publicly explodes for an audience. One of the show's producers had called some guy who definitely did not know he was on the radio, pretending she was from a flower shop or something and had a free bouquet for him to give out to whoever he wanted. Now, let me stop right here and let us consider this.... maybe it's the skeptical native New Yorker in me, but who in their right mind would believe they just so happened to have won a free bouquet of flowers and accept it without any questions? Well, this guy apparently.
Los Angeles, man.
He proceeded to give the name of the woman he wanted to send the flowers to, who - spoiler alert - was not his wife. When prompted as to who the woman was that the flowers were being delivered to, his wife piped up from the background to shout out how terrible he was. Isn't that nice? He was confused, of course, and it was clarified that he was in fact on live radio ordering fake roses for some woman who was very obviously not married to him. And THEN we found out that the wife seemed to know who the alleged girlfriend was and that she'd sent her an email about paying her back for something. The wife wouldn't say how she knew the other woman, leaving Ryan to interpret her weird dodging to mean she had had a relationship with that woman's boyfriend/husband.
I was grateful I had to get out of the car for yoga, because omg. This is such an awful way to start someone's morning! Now, I realize this is super random for me to be sharing here in this space, but it's been sitting on my heart.
I couldn't help but feel bad for the guy who was humiliated on the radio without his permission. I mean, cheating on your significant other is low and a horrendous form of betrayal, in my opinion, but still. Call me old fashioned, but castigating the person on live radio with an audience of probably millions at 8am does not seem like the appropriate way to handle a relationship dispute.
This brought me back to my yoga practice, ironically. How you behave on your mat, you behave off your mat. In yoga, we cultivate self-respect and body kindness and love for community and overall patience. Or at least, that's how yoga has worked its magic on my soul. And I feel like that has better equipped me to have open conversations with loved ones and strangers alike, teaching me to pause and listen before automatically writing someone off or placing blame without understanding or even avoiding an awkward conversation. Not that I think I was ever the type of person who would have called a radio show to investigate a significant other, but still. WTF.
And now that I've unloaded that on you, here are some things I'm grateful for today:
- sunny days
- my melodramatic puppy (what up, #nationalpuppyday)
- the power of the internet to fosters new relationships and community
As always, thanks for reading! And if you want to make my day, leave a comment.
ps. thanks for the feedback on my last post!